Patience and Growing Up

Sometimes our heartache comes from our own minds. We feel so miserable when something doesn't go the way we want it to be. We will blame other people for not cooperating with us. The truth is, it's our own expectations that make us suffer in the end. 

So, should we give up? 

Do we have no choice but to stop putting high expectations? 

Should we run away from the things we have started because of our own heartache? 

Maybe a life without anyone would be better, we think.

Everyone has been in that state. A state where we think the world is unfair and we want to run away from it. A state where we think everyone else is just getting in our way to reach our dreams. The journey where we face the most difficult times and hit the wall that seems can't be broken. We're stuck. We feel depressed and keep questioning, "why can't this happen the way I plan it? I've worked hard. I've put a lot of effort into it?"

The answer for everything is very easy yet very hard to apply: patience 

That's right. Patience. It is a very simple solution for all of our problems in the world, but why is it so hard for us to be patient when things start to go wrong? Why do we choose to put our anger first instead of our patience? Everyone knows: an angry heart will never result a good thing especially when making decision, but we suddenly forget about that when something disappointed us. We may not be born with the same character and attitude, we will always find someone or something that doesn't match our character, but we don't have to face that with anger. We just have to be open-minded and again, always be patient.

"Oh, it's easy for you to tell us to be patient, you don't know what I feel, you don't know what I'm going through..!"

Some stubborn minds might think that way, but again, it's because it loses its patience that our minds refuse to listen to any advice. Life is about our process to grow up. Growing up isn't always about 12 to 25 and then you officially become an adult. Growing up is about the growth of characters as well. That's why even if you're going to 40 or 80, you will keep growing up as long as there's something inside of you that you need to change. As long as you keep trying to make yourself a better person, it's called growing up. The more we grow, the more patient we should be, because of the more challenging life ahead of us. That's why maturity is not just about numbers. 

And above all, we have to keep asking for His guidance so we will not get lost. Patience can be granted to you if you keep trying and learn to apply it in your life and as long as you keep asking for Allah SWT for it. Once you master the knowledge of patience, the world will be yours, because nothing can get you down and nothing can destroy your spirit. Be patient and be thankful, always.